I recently read an interview with Brit actress Tamzin Outhwaite and one of the questions she was asked was “Are you the kind of mum you always thought you’d be?”
Her answer was this:
Before I became a mum I thought I’d want to be with my children all the time, but it’s key to get the mum/work balance just right. – “Practical Parenting & Pregnancy” – May 2013, p130
It got me thinking… am I the kind of mum I always thought I’d be…..
To be honest, it was quite difficult to access any pre-baby thoughts regarding motherhood. I remember thinking that babies were pretty scary little things that I had no idea about.
I always wanted a family but thought that I’d probably not be a stay-at-home mum; I wanted a career and a job title. I remember feeling like it was important not to lose myself to the frills and pastels of motherhood and I remember an insistent urge that the baby would fit into my life rather than the other way around.
Two children later, my answer would have to be ‘yes’ and ‘no’ – I both ‘am’ and ‘am not’ the mum I always thought I’d be.
I am still a little awkward around babies in general but am totally comfortable with my own two girlies, and their friends as well. I did end up doing the whole ‘stay-at-home’ mum thing (I chuckle as I say this) but I work from home doing something I love – so I didn’t completely sell out the job title/career bit).
I have definitely been able to maintain a sense of self – I’ve just slotted the mummy thing in there somewhere between my alternative lifestyle – and I feel like my hubby and I have made a happy compromise when it comes to babs fitting in to our comings and goings. There aren’t as many nights out but our girls to their fair share of gallivanting.
I feel like life has turned out well for me. Motherhood has taught me so much and whilst some of my priorities have changed (for the better) I have held on to that which matters most – and included my girls in the dreams I have yet to achieve.
Are you the kind of mum you always thought you’d be?